Sorry I could not resist the urge to paste this wonderful post by one of my facebook followers, it is a breathe of fresh air:
IF A MARRIAGE IS SWEET AND WORKING, LOOK AGAIN, THE MAN, ESPECIALLY, IS DOING SOMETHING RIGHT !!
I expect ladies to kick, and that’s natural because traditionally, women are more relational and relationship focussed than men but I want to appeal for a little patience so we can all see just what this unconventional thought might state.
First of all let me concede right from the start that most women WANT, DESIRE and if possible DEMAND that their marriages not only work but that it should be sweet, a paradise that their entire life is woven around.
We could say a woman, deep down in her heart, seem to expect her whole life climax in marriage. Marriage is a huge huge ultimate destination in most women’s mind.
In fact when you find a woman who loaths marriage, you are looking at an individual who had been forced by circumstances to abandon her huge and maybe only dream of paradise.
To lose a chance to have a great marriage for a woman is totally unpardonable. I won’t marry such a woman for a price of a million dollars. She is a disaster waiting to explode.
So here we are, almost all women naturally wants to have a great marriage. Without gainsaying, most women would do whatever they deem necessary to make their marriages work and sweet.
So how is the man the key to a sweet and a working marriage then?
Most men don’t view marriage with nostalgia as women do. For most men, marriage is just another stage that one is naturally expected to grow into. Most men don’t think marriage hold much promise beyond the respect that society attach to it.
If you thought this male attitude is inconsequential you are in error, and the error is monumental! Put in plain
language, it is sabotage, it is the reason why most marriages are in shambles and under-performing!!
No man can hold on to this prevalent notion about marriage and have a sweet and working marriage.
When you find a sweet and working marriage, there is an unusual man in the mix.
No matter the efforts of the best of women to make marriage work until her man takes the driver’s seat in that marriage she would soon tire and like 90% of women she would turn their passion toward her offsprings fiercely.
If we must ask the position of the divine on this matter, man is designed to be the driver of marriage that’s what it means to be the head, he is expected to design a sweet vision for everyone to follow.
In the beginning Man began life with marriage, and we are going to end it in marriage of eternal duration. Could marriage be more serious than this?
Sabotage, that’s the biggest challenge marriages are facing in homes and its coming from the inappropriate value men place on this divine institution.
Ephesians 5 : 25
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church and gave himself for it;
26 that he might sanctify and cleans it with the washing of the water by the word,
27 that he might present it to himself a glorious Church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
So if it’s going to work and if it’s going to be sweet, just as Christ’s pattern suggests, its up to the man and not the woman.
Simple, most women already crave a sweet marriage. So every little commitment of the man to make marriage work would most likely receive an exaggerated cooperation and zealous participation from the women.
There are always exception of course, but most women are grieving because they have been everywhere; prayer houses and shrines seeking to make it work but to no avail.
Some of them even go into the extent of hypnotizing their men thinking they can engineer perpetual romance, thinking control can give it to them.
What they get is usually worse, they get a moron. Nothing indeed compares to a man in his right mind making his home a paradise.
The only kinds of women who would abuse the offer of such a man are those would be shocked that there could still be men of these stock and of course those obnoxious ones who in my opinion don’t qualify to marry.
Most men view marriage, good and sweet marriage as nothing of much significance because they lack spiritual understanding. Most men are completely unaware that divine help is opulently available to those whose marriages are worked beyond the tenets of social studies.
Consider these,(a) if two of you shall agree concerning ANYTHING it shall be done for you of my father in heaven . Matthew 18: 19
(b) one shall chase a thousand, and two shall put 10 thousand to flight.
(c) if you don’t treat your wife right your prayers would be hindered. I Peter 3: 7
……….and there is more!!
Bottom line is, however great a woman’s passion is to make her marriage work, typically, she would wear herself out and thin until a man sees the value in having a beautiful marriage.
Most marriages would work if it’s solely up to the women.
Nothing works in marriage except the man makes it work!!
Ladies, these can’t be a regular guy, most guys as I know them would sacrifice their marriages for promises of better life rather than see their marriages as a great leap into the region of a better life.